Written by: Zachary Lui
This year has been a wringer. At the start, I had many aspirations and plans. However, with COVID-19, those dreams quickly changed to survival.
In this midst of change, I found myself feeling overwhelmed and beating myself up. Every piece of knowledge, wisdom, and training I cultivated was about to be tested. A common thread kept coming up, which was self-compassion.
Why self-compassion is important
It's pretty simple. Being judgemental and hard on yourself doesn't help. It hinders it.
As entrepreneurs, self-compassion and self-love can be tricky. On the one hand, you want to pursue your passion. However, in doing so, whether it be from circumstances or expectations, you might become a tyrant to yourself.
Fortunately, with this three-step method, we can avoid the downsides and just lay on the goodies.
How to cultivate self-compassion
Admit How You Feel
Admitting certain things can be difficult. It bruises the ego. You as a person are not less because of completely unexpected circumstances storming in. Holding that expectation is unfair. It's ok to admit how you feel.
So start with the question, "how am I doing" and go from there.
I found that once I admitted my feelings of being overwhelmed, despair, depression and shock about the situation, my productivity went up multiples.
Meditation tremendously helped me during this period. If admitting how I felt gave me some space, meditation gave me a room from negative thought loops. It's quite well-known scientifically that meditation has a variety of benefits. Some of the benefits include increased clarity, creativity, reducing negative emotions, and much more.
You might be thinking meditation is difficult. Want to hear the good news? It doesn't have to be. Place both hands on your belly. The goal is to have your hands raise with your abdomen on the inhalation breath and sink with the exhalation. Simple, nothing else.
Do that for 5-10 minutes. This simple exercise is a game-changer. If you're looking to boost your meditation, I offer a free guided meditation every weekday from 12 pm-12:40 pm.
The previous steps were an appetizer. This step is the meal.
Focus on starting and finishing one task. The task does not have to be huge. It can be as simple as drinking water. You can then smile and tell yourself, "great job!" to boost the effects.
From here, you can slowly and surely build a consistent routine. If negative voices creep in, state to your self, "I'm doing the best I can." You'll notice finishing the single-task proves it.
Self-compassion can be difficult. It is during times of crisis; you might find yourself harder on yourself than usual. I know I was.
Just remember to keep things simple.
With these three steps, you're on a journey to being more productive, aware, and positive with yourself.
What self-compassion techniques have you used?
Zachary Lui is a leading expert in Eastern metaphysics and founder of Wuji Xuan Life Wellness and Spiritual Performance Center. Studying directly from Andrieh Vitimus, he is a Shaman-Folk Priest and Reiki Master Teacher. He is a certified trainer from the Results Over Image Institute and an international radio co-host.
He has devoted several years running a wellness center. He has been creating training that teaches accountable visionaries his best techniques & strategies for being more productive, increasing vitality and expanding creativity.